Singlesville

In a world dominated by power couples , do you have to be a relationship in order to be identified as part of the society we are in ....
Lately my girlfriends have all seemed to find that other half , all in relationships which are taking up most of their time, happily showing them off in events like trophies they won or diamonds so rare ...and I find myself often alone and abandoned by those friends who seem to be enjoying their new life of couplehood , while i dwell in singlesville ...
I cant help by wonder , why do you have to be a half of a whole in order to be seen ? And why is being single looking more like a chronic disease , where you get pity looks and sympathy hugs when you utter the words "im single"
Thus my new mission ... As I seem to be unable to conjur up a boyfriend in order to fit with my old buddies , it is my oath to find myself some new friends , who thrive in singlehood and drink from the cup of mortality ...
Of course the only place I would find those is in a kindergarden :s

MIA ??

Im starting to really wonder where FF has gone to ?? I must say Im feeling a bit abandoned over here...

Common decency

I met this guy a couple of weeks ago . He showed interest in me and was even on the verge of flirting ,but after a while I totally shot him down . Why ? Because he was a good old straight forward decent guy . He was decent . And that made me back off .

And now Im wondering...Are my standards of myself too low that I think I only deserve the lowest of the low ? Or am I only cut out to deal with jerks and bastards ? Or maybe I think that I dont deserve the good ones because Im too broken and twisted ?

Maybe Im better off if I dont find the answer ...
Siiigh..

A time for change

Today marks the 5th anniversary of my graduation , and I cant help but ask myself the questions I keep avoiding ; What have I done in the past 5 years ? Is this how I envisioned my life to be ? Am i satisfied ?

I look around me to my lovely colleagues , some married with beautiful children , some on the top of the ladder in their careers , some even both . And again the questions keep bubbling inside my head . What is it that I want ? Where do I want to be ? and most importantly , how the hell do I get there ??

On the verge of graduation , you feel like you're on top of the world , that the sky is your limit, and that you're off to exploit all your dreams and aspirations ... But year after year , you come to the realization that it's not really that easy . The goals that have been hanging infront of your eyesight in vivid color , are changing to a lighter shade of pale with each passing moment , until you no longer have a recollection of where you wanted to be in the 1st place . This is when you hit rock bottom .... You find yourself a prisoner of a time loop , where your days keep repeating themselves like a broken record .

Maybe today was a wake up call which I felt like a cold bucket of water splashed to my face . Nevertheless , it is definetely time to make some changes .

The Holy Book of Friendship

I dont know about you guys , but for me some lines just cannot be crossed . These are a few of mine .

*Thou shalt not date your friend's ex-boyfriend

*Thou shalt not date your bestfriend's crush

*Thou shalt not flirt with your friend's current boyfriend

*Thou shalt not dump boyfriend and date his younger brother

*Thou shalt not wed your friend's current fiance ( yep i've seen it happen )

*Thou shalt not date your ex-boyfriend's bestfriend

*Thou shalt not flirt with your friend's father ( or any man of his age to that matter :p )

*Thou shalt not date your sister's ex-boyfriend/crush

and for the guys ,
*Thou shalt not date your ex-girlfriend's sister !

Of course that eliminates mostly 75% of dating candidates , and that is probably the reason why I'm still single .. or that's what I keep telling myself :)

Expand your horizons

I must admit that an upside of being single (other than the unlimited amount of freedom) has definitely got to be the dating experience. We’ve all had those fun (and not-so-fun) date stories that we share with our friends….and lets face it we all have our set of ‘criteria’s’ that have to be met before agreeing to go on a date but something that I have learned from my own experiences is that the moment you open up your mind and learn to be flexible with these ‘criteria’s’ you get to meet the most unexpected people and may even end up having a fabulous time.
I’m not saying that the date will lead you to your soul mate but it will make you learn different things about yourself and about people that you would have previously overlooked. For example, I’ve dated someone that we didn’t have a common language between us but he taught me that actions do speak louder than words and how far someone will go to show you how they feel. So why not try something different and date someone that you wouldn’t normally go for just for the experience, what do you have to lose?
And this is by no means specifically meant for Girl Interrupted who I will now call GI for short:)

Opening up

So I'd like to make my debut post by introducing my latest blunder and sharing the valuable lesson I've learned in the process .

The last guy I was with , well , practically ran away! I have no other word for it and it was for absolutely no reason that I may know of . Night after night I tried to rack my brains with a possible faux-pas that may have driven him away … have I obliviously let out a fart in his presence ? Maybe my eyebrows were uneven that day ? Did I forget to put deodorant on ? and then it hit me one night while I was sipping on some green mint tea which has become my latest addiction .It wasn’t any of these things , the only mistake Ive done was something which I was totally not used to doing …I've opened up to the guy , let my feelings be known and therefore put myself in the vulnerable position of a woman exposed . And the guy ran .

So lesson no.1 for all you single ladies out there…Never , Ever , admit to how you really feel when you're with a guy . Always act aloof and uninterested in their company and most importantly , always wear deodorant before a date !